Did
you know only 33% of Americans
are actually happy? You didn't read it in a fiction book or see it in a movie. It’s a real number.
Is
there a way that we can hardwire our brain for more happiness?
There
are several reasons explaining this surprising percentage:
1.
Health and wellbeing
2.
Relationships
3.
Career
Most of the time, we follow a script unconsciously. We somehow step down from
the director's seat and let somebody else tell us how to act the scene. We
become a passive actor rather than being the creator of our life. It takes time,
effort and work to create a higher standard of life in the long run. We sometimes
fall into a very submissive role until something happens that makes us question our
role in the movie.
Usually,
something negative happens in one of these categories. Maybe an illness or
getting laid off whips us right out. Sometimes it's the only way that we will take
back our seat in the director's chair.
Can
we avoid the pain and struggle of undesirable events? Absolutely.
Before anything unfortunate happens, we can take an active role in our life by delving within. In some sense, this may sound unsettling to you.
Planning is not the way to happiness. Life isn't about setting goals and mapping out a road map to get there.
It's about WASTING time. We don't dream enough. We don't even set time
aside to try to dream. Life is full
dreams and they come true.
The magnificence
of any major figure in our history from Martin Luther King to Nelson Mandela
did not come about from planning. They
both had dreams to endure and a steadfast belief to accomplish their goals. In other words, they spent their lifetimes dreaming. They dreamed of
a society where their kids would be "judged by the content of their
character, not the color of their skin." -M.L.K. Jr.
Dreaming
has a lot of benefits. It actually gets us moving.
Why
don't we all dream more like these great figures?
From
the American point of view, saving time and money is part of the US
habit. People are always obsessed with efficiency and goal reaching. That’s why many Americans say, "time is money."
On the contrary, many
European countries encourage students to experience social life abroad before
making life decisions. Europeans encourage the gap year, where recent college
graduates travel for a year before identifying the course of work they want to
dedicate their life to.
How
can we compare Europeans and Americans in their free time and dreaming ?
Europeans
could be much happier than Americans in some ways
. Look at the chart below and you will find the US at #14, while many Nordic countries are in the top 10.
Many factors could contribute to happiness, but culture underlines many reasons. In 2017, the US dropped to #18. Embracing the gap year and wasting time is something
American culture can adapt.
Where do we start with dream-building?
I
have taken the activity on more seriously in recent days and started this
exercise. It has helped me dream a little more, and my hope is that it will guide
you, too.
I'm working on a dream building exercise
and thought I would share the 4 questions that have been helpful to me.
1. What would you love in the area of
health & well-being?
2. What would you love in the area of
relationships?
3. What would you love in the area of
your vocation?
4. What would you do if you had all the
time & money freedom?
The idea is to dream big, and not think
about the limits and the hows right now. That will come later.
Hope it empowers you like it has for me.
Exit
the highway and create your own freedom. How can we be free if we do not have
free time to dream?
- Time Health "Here's How Happy Americans are Right Now."
http://time.com/4871720/how-happy-are-americans/
http://worldhappiness.report/ed/2018/
